Every year, it sells more than the year before. So probably five years later, I thought, you know if I could put this concept in a book, write it in the language of the common person, I could help a lot of people that i would never have time to see in my office. It’s been making a great difference.” And then I started using it in small groups and the same thing happened. Couples would come back and say, “Hey, we been trying this. So I started using this concept in my counseling, that people have different love languages and you have to learn to speak the language of your spouse if you want them to feel loved, and it was amazing. So what I did, I actually set down and read about 12 years of notes that I had made when i was counseling people and I asked myself the question, when someone said, “I feel like my spouse doesn’t love me, what did they want? What were they complaining about?” And there answers fell in the five categories, and I later called them the five love languages. Why wouldn’t you feel loved?” I knew there was a pattern to all of it but I didn’t know what it was. One of them would say, “Well I just feel like he doesn’t love me, or she doesn’t’ love me,” and the other one would say, “I don’t understand that I do this and this and this. You know, Michael, I’ve been counseling for probably about fifteen years and I knew I was hearing the same stories over and over in my office. It’s kind of gone viral, I guess we’d say today, in ways you probably never intended.ĬHAPMAN: Yeah, it’s been amazing the way God has used that book. For those of you who don’t know, about your primary work, your five languages of love, talk to us about sort of the Genesis of the five languages and how that started in your practice and your writing. Gary, thanks for being with us today.ĬHAPMAN: Well thank you ,Michael, it’s good to be with you.ĮASLEY: It’s great to hear your voice.

Primarily known for his five languages of love. Gary is a full time pastor, speaker, author, extensively travels around the U.S. Transcript:ĮASLEY: Welcome to the program today and it’s my great privilege to have with us Dr. Twenty-seven other books and five video series are also among his publications. Sales exceeding 5 million copies earned him the Platinum Book Award from the Evangelical Publishers Association for The Five Love Languages, which has been translated into over thirty-six languages. Other engagements have taken him to England, Africa, Saudi Arabia, Turkey, Mexico and Hong Kong. Chapman to speak to the NATO forces in Germany.

The government of Singapore invited him to present his marriage seminar there and the Chaplain’s Office of NATO issued a special invitation for Dr. and internationally on marriage, family, and relationships. He speaks extensively throughout the U.S. Gary Chapman seeks to fulfill his call to the ministry as a pastor, speaker, and author.

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